If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child it increases the risk that the child will grow up being aggressive. Children with abusive parents tend to not only be aggressive towards others, but also may have a tendency of harming themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is because the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. A child may act more innapropriately if they are raised without learning coping skills. According to Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” everyone gets the child they deserve.