A primary caretakers negative attitude toward their child increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile toward others. It is not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. We are likely to act “inappropriately” without developed coping skills. The affect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in, “The Bully Papers,” states that everyone gets the child they deserve.