If primary caretakers have a negative attitude toward their child it will increase the risk of the child growing up to be hostile towards others. A large number of children raised by abusive parents harm themselves and act out aggressively towards others. Abuse creates a negative behavior due to the abused child not learning the appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. When a child isn’t raised with necessary coping skills, they are much more likely to act inappropriately in comparison to a child that has developed reasonable coping skills. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone raises the child they deserve.