If primary caretakers have a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression toward others – that results from child abuse; a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is because the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling lifes disappointments. If you aren’t raised with coping skills, you are much likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than if you have developed more reasonable approaches. The affect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child they deserve.