If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. It’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If you aren’t raised with coping skills, you’re likely to act ‘inappropriately’ then if you have developed more reasonable approaches. The affect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” states that everyone gets the child they deserve.