A primary caretaker with a negative attitude increases the risk that his child will grow up hostile towards others. It’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse. A shocking amount of children raised by abusive parents harm themselves. The negative behavior and inadequate parenting reflects on the children as they never learn the techniques for handling life’s disappointments. Without these coping skills, children are more likely to act “inappropriately” than those who developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that parents get the children they deserve.