If primary caretakers have a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk of the child growing up hostile towards others. It’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior develops because the children didn’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. When a child isn’t raised with necessary coping skills, they are much more likely to act inappropriately versus a child that has developed reasonable coping skills. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the children they deserve.