If primary caretakers have a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk of the child growing up hostile towards others. It’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior develops because the children didn’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. When a child isn’t raised with necessary coping skills, they are much more likely to act inappropriately versus a child that has developed reasonable coping skills. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the children they deserve.
Counterintuitive 