If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward her child it increases the risk that her child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression towards others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is that children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If you aren’t raised with coping skills, you’re much more likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than if you have developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the children they deserve.